Breakups are hard to deal with, especially when you really cared about the other person, or you were the one who got dumped. I'm no professional, but here is how I deal with a breakup:

Step 1: Cry.


• I cried my little eyes out for days (or longer but whatevs) and it made me feel a tad better. Not over night of course but, I got there eventually.


Step 2: Music.

• I listened to every Keyshia Cole, Monica and Mary J Blige song I could find (Mary always makes a song about an ex, she should be over him by now). A lot of people say it's a bad idea to listen to angry breakup songs but if you ask me, it's apart of the whole healing process. For you're sad, then you get mad, it's healthy to me.


Step 3: Delete everything.

• It took me a month and some change after the break to get to this step, and when I did - I cried. Not a full on sob but, a few tears found their way to the surface. Deleting is a big step, these are documents of memories that you will (possibly) never recover, I wouldn't do it if you're just arguing and still together cause you'll regret it. Delete pictures, text messages, videos, screenshots, all of that. Trust me, it'll hurt, but you're on your way to recovery.


Step 4: Call your best friend.

• If your best friend is like mine, go to them immediately. My best friend got mad with me at the parts of the stories that angered me, let me cry a bit, offered me food, then told me to suck it up cause I'm amazing and deserve better and offered to help beat up my ex (no, we did not beat him up, sadly). Your best friend should be able to cry with you, get mad with you, and tell you when it's time to move on.


Step 5: Go out.

• Have a fun night out with your friends, go do something you really enjoy doing to take your mind off of everything. Not saying you'll never think of your ex again, but at least they'll be off of your mind for the time being.


Step 6: Out of sight, out of mind.

• Unfollow them - on everything. Unfollow them on Instagram, unfollow them on Twitter, unfriend them on Facebook, even block them if you need to. But the less you see their face unnecessarily, the easier it'll be to make a quicker recovery.


Step 7: Live life, Move on.
• There's no need to explain this one. You have to live your life regardless of what happens. While you're sobbing around, your ex-significant other is having a good ole' time, from the looks of it. So you do the same. Take this time to focus on yourself, don't go looking for someone new, because you aren't ready yet, trust me. I tell my friends all the time, they'll come back. I won't give it a 100% guarantee but let's say 85%, that's how sure I am that they'll either come back or quickly realize the mistake that was made if they were the one to mess things up.

Breakups are horrible, but they don't have to ruin you or last forever. I was so much happier when I realized that.

Hope this helped dolls!
This isn't goodbye, it's see you later, until next time!